Tony Robbins -Change your life in 2022
Human beings absolutely follow through on who they believe they are, if you say, said to me: well, I’m really gonna work hard to stop smoking, but you know I’ve been a smoker, my whole life and I’m you know I am a smoker.
I know your days are numbered you’re, gonna be back smoking cigarettes again because we all act consistently with who we believe we are.
I tell people the strongest force in the whole human personality.
Is this need to stay consistent with how we define, if you define yourself as somebody who is really conservative, you’re not gonna be crazy and act nuts unless you’re really drunk or something?
And then you can say it’s the alcohol when it really does you finding getting permission to be yourself.
The alcohol is your excuse.
If you’re a really crazy person, you act crazy.
You don’t have conservative, because that’s not who you fern often people say well.
I can’t do that, I’m not that kind of person and I always say to people really: when did you define yourself, I mean really how many years ago did you come up with what you could and couldn’t do in your life?
How many years ago, most people if they really look at how to live in their life today, it’s based on a set of standards, a set of beliefs that they made choices about 10, 20, 30 or more years ago I mean very often we made decisions in Our youth or very young about what to believe about what we were capable of about who we are as a person and that becomes the glass ceiling.
If you will that controls us there’s a corny metaphor, but it’s true.
I remember one time I was with my family at the circus and there’s a person there and they had this big giant elephant and you look at this elephant and they take this little rope, put it around the health and snack and they drive this stake into The ground and I mean you look at this you know that elephant could rip down the entire tent with almost no effort and yet the elephant doesn’t struggle, doesn’t try why cuz the elephant’s conditioned and they take that elephant conditioned the elephant when it’s a baby elephant.
That’S how they train them when it’s a little baby elephant and it doesn’t have power, yet they put a big rope around it and they drive this huge stake in the ground and the elephant, fights and fights and bites and one day.
Finally, that often decides I’m not capable of pulling this out and once that becomes the definition of the identity of anyone, an elephant, in this case, they don’t even try anymore.
It’S just who I am that’s how it is that’s just the way it is in my life.
I’d like to ask you to take a look at any place.
You’Ve got a limitation.
When did I decide to accept that limitation and you may not even see it as a limitation?
You might see that just that’s who I am, but so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a certain way so that we don’t fail or so that people will like us or respect us.
But it’s not necessarily who we are joy comes when you’re spontaneous.
It’s really hard to be truly happy when you’re, not being yourself and most of us have no clue we are, and so a big part of my work, if you’ve ever been to an event, you know, is to get people to do things spontaneously without thinking because That’S when the real you shows up, that’s when the energy comes alive and when you do that, when you start to connect your true nature, suddenly there’s energy available for you to set a higher standard for what you want in your life.
That’S what this is really all about and when I talk about standards, when I talk about you know, shoulds versus muss think about your own life.
I know there have been areas in your life where some point in time.
You just shift it and you raise the standard in your life change because whatever people have their identity attached to they live, we live, who we believe we are that’s just how it works.
It’S just kind of like.
I give an example.
Look at your physical body.
Your physical body today is an absolute reflection of only one thing: not your goals, not your desires, but your standards, the identity you have for yourself.
If your standard is you’re an athlete, then there’s a certain amount of strength, a muscle tone and energy.
That’S available in your body on a regular basis, because that’s who you are, and so you do whatever is necessary to maintain that identity, again, the strongest force and the human personalities.
This need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves, because if you don’t know who you are, you would not act once you lock in on that identity.
Your brain finds a way to keep you there, and you say you know man, I’m overweight.
I’Ve always been overweight, I’m big onde and that’s the story.
You’Ve gotten you’re gonna always find a way to get back there.
That’S your settling point!
That’S your identity!
That’S where things lock-in.
If you see somebody who’s in really great shape, you ask him.
Do you work out, you know the answer?
Yes, how often and they’ll tell you three times four times five times a week, whatever in a seminar last people who here works out at least five days a week and I’m stand-up and you look around that room and you know that they work out five times.
A week as you can see their body, you don’t just get a result without some kind of action, without some form of ritual, meaning actions.
You do consistently now.
Do you think you know those people that are out there working out five days a week?
Do they have more time than you do, or I have for anybody else, of course not?
Is that wifeless busy?
Of course not it’s just a must for them.
They must work out that way and they’ve made that turn their life changed.
So I’m not saying you have to work out five days a week, I’m just saying whatever you really want, once don’t get met consistently standards do whatever you identify.
This is Who I am, and so it’s not so much about changing your identity as there’s expanding it.
You know deciding that you know instead of your goals, to lose ten pounds, which is not compelling what if your vision was to get back to my fighting weight.
You know just this year this month, this next 90 days, I’m gonna transform my body, I’m gonna take on a new challenge.
I’m gonna find some technique or strategy, there’s a million of them that can reframe myself, where I want to feel younger stronger.
More vibrant than ever before, here are my reasons, because I want the energy to really make my life work because it’s tough out there and I want to be stronger than I’ve ever been before.
I only go in front of a mirror and if I’m naked not you know, want to laugh, I will look there and take a good look and go I’m proud of whatever I see there.
Whatever it takes.
Something’S gonna make you laugh smile, something that’s gonna tease yourself, but something’s gonna move you to another level.
If you identify yourself in a new way and you own that every day and that becomes the staredown, you live, you’ll find the way to make that standard, real money’s, the same way think about it, doesn’t matter what’s happening, quote-unquote in the marketplace, people that make money Find a way to make money, no matter what don’t they I mean.
Most people’s standard is to pay their bills.
So that’s what most find a way to do, even when economic times get tough most people, if that’s their absolute standard, they find a way.
Some people’s standard is pay their bills and most of the time, and so most the time they do.
Some people’s standard is not just to pay their bills but to take care of their family and maybe even some of their friends, and they find a way.
In fact, you might have some people may be in a family where they don’t have enough money.
You barely have money to pay their bills, they work through guts out and then somebody, their mother, their father or somebody else.
Their sister gets ill and there’s not enough money to take care of it.
Nobody else has money and family, they don’t either, but they find a way to get that money to take care of their mother or father.
Don’T they and they their bells.
They never could do it before why the situation made them raise their own standard and not everybody does that somebody else in the family might have money and still don’t take care of their mother.
It all comes down to the inner game.
My friends changing your life is a change in the inner game, the outside world.
You can’t control, but you have absolute control over this one.
If you learn that dynamics of what shapes you and identity is one of those simple, clear, fundamental basics that if you start to shift it, everything else will shift in your life as well some people.
By the way I have to have more than enough money to do what they want when they want, where they want, with whomever they want, contribute the way they want.
If that’s there must they find a way.
I know that sounds overly simplistic, but it’s true now somebody once said you can take all the money in the world out of the hands of everybody out of all the wealthy people in the world who are really successful, give it to other people it wouldn’t take Too long those people have it back in their hands.
It’S not because they’re manipular, that’s because they have a standard.
Some are manipular, don’t get me wrong, but they’ve got a standard of what they’re gonna find a way to make happen.
I’M just simply saying to you: take those three magic words and live them raise your standard.
If you really want to do it, then I’ll tell you the most important secret.
Have you ever done this?
Have you ever told yourself you’re, raising your standing?
Okay, I’m gonna go make this happen.
I’M gonna go make this much money.
I’M gonna transform my kids, I’m gonna create the ultimate relationship of my life.
I’M gonna transform my body whatever it is, and then you don’t have strong enough reasons and you don’t lose use it.
You don’t follow through it’s because you didn’t back up your standards with what makes those standards real and that’s rituals rituals.
Although the power is, whenever we do, our robbins results coaching and we did Robbins equals results late.
We get results with people, it’s the same way.
If you listen to my ultimate edge program are back in the old days, personal power or if you went to one of my seminars, you know what I do is I take these huge challenges you got and we break them down into little bite-sized steps.
Little things you do each day that after you do them, you get so much momentum that it’s easy to succeed, you’re not overwhelmed.
You have these victory day after day after day on little things if you’d went to ultimate edge.
I’M sure you learned about the hour of power or to 15 minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30 minutes to thrive, where you literally just condition your body and emotion with a couple little rituals, so it doesn’t matter what’s going on in your world, you Feel that strength and it’s not fake, it’s not some pump up it’s coming from inside you and it works rituals define us see all the results in your life are coming from your rituals.
They start with a standard and then have rituals that follow it up like, for example, if you are where you want to be physically, you have very different rituals than if you’re, not where you want to be physically.
If you’re overweight, you and I both know, you got a different ritual than if you’re physically fit completely different.
You get up in the morning.
What’S the first thing you do if you’re fit your shoes, are there you roll over to the minute?
You feel you put on your shoes, you lace and you start walking or whatever that ritual is.
If you’re overweight you roll over and you have a very different ritual, you might roll over several times to turn the alarm clock off.
You go in and get your mocha mocha whatever you know, special coffee stop by at Starbucks over the case.
Maybe you have you a nice sugar muffin.
You know it’s supposed to be really nice for you, whatever you do.
It’S a different ritual.
If you have a great passionate relationship, you have very different rituals and how you come home than if you have a lousy relationship.
You come home and the first thing you do is you’re tweeting somebody or you’re emailing or flipping on the news or you don’t even come home and what are the rituals whenever I study people that are successful while I look for is what’s the standard they hold Himself to and then what are all the little rituals that up because think about it.
Success and failure are not giant events, don’t just show up, you’ll just suddenly become successful or suddenly have this cataclysmic event that makes you fail.
May look that way, but failure comes from all the little things: its failure to make the call its failure to check the books, its failure to say, I’m sorry, its failure to push yourself to do things physically, that you don’t want to do and all those little Failures day after day, come together until one day some Cataclysm event happens, you blame net.